Anyone with a little bit of success in life will tell you that rejections are unpleasant part of the process of achieving anything significant in life. Not just for achievement but after being successful too one has to handle rejections continuously. Does anyone like being rejected? I seriously doubt that. But, can we bypass this process? Yes, if we kill our dreams and are willing to live with unfulfilling life.
Admission in great schools/colleges, job in great companies, getting in relationship with a person of your dreams, more social media appreciation, promotion, more customers, whatever you need you will have to take the chances with rejection. Isn’t it? So, what do we do? Learn, how to handle it. I have following suggestions, which may work for you:
- Understand and accept it as part of process. Don’t take it as a judgment of your character or a person. Most of the times vacancies are limited and they can’t accommodate all deserving people. So, don’t take it personally.
- Understand the reason of rejection. Is it lack of knowledge, skill or something else? Have you done enough to work on these? If no, work hard on yourself so that you don’t get rejected again for same reason.
- Look at the credentials of person who rejected you. Sometimes people with no credibility or substance may also pass comments. Don’t take them seriously. If the person has substance, take it as feedback, learning and work on it.
- Think of all those who love you unconditionally. Talk to them.
- Remember, nothing is permanent, try again after preparation.
- Suppose you will not get any other chances at the same position now, realise that something better may come up due to this rejection. History is full of such blessings in disguise.
In the nutshell, rejections are part of life. Take it on chin and move on but don’t live with guilt that you did not even try. Guilt is more painful than rejection. Think about it.
